A certain Brother
David Steindl-Rast once said, “In daily
life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but (it is) gratefulness
that makes us happy”. Today’s liturgical readings put more emphasis on the
importance of gratitude. Being grateful is so essential for human beings that even
Jesus expects it from us and is even close to demanding it.
In the First Reading, we see Naaman, the general of Syrian
army, returning to the Prophet Elisha to thank him personally for the
miraculous healing from leprosy, and offering the prophet lavish tokens of thanksgiving.
When a person realizes the greatness of the blessings received, he becomes
grateful and more generous. When we realize that we have received lots of
blessings from the Lord, we become more generous to Him and His Church. Those
who are stringent in giving are those who recognize very little God’s gifts.
St. Paul, in the Second Reading, reminds us that even if we
are unfaithful to Jesus, our Lord “remains faithful for He cannot deny Himself”.
Even if we are less generous to God with our time, talent and treasure, God
continues to show us His abundant generosity by giving us what we need every
day. Even more! Even if we are sometimes ungrateful to God, He remains faithful
in bestowing His unconditional love for us. We see this in the Story of Ten
Lepers in the Gospel.
Ten lepers came to meet Jesus and asked Him to cure them.
Perhaps, Jesus knew that most of them would be ungrateful. Yet, He still cured them
all. Only one, a Samaritan, came to thank Jesus. St. Luke emphasized that “this man was a Samaritan”. Perhaps, the
Evangelist wanted to highlight the fact that in life, oftentimes we get good
things from unexpected people. Hence, we should put aside any bias and all the prejudices
we have with the people we meet every day.
Why would God want us to be grateful? Seneca said: “Nothing is more honorable than a grateful
heart”. He even observed that “A man
is ungrateful who denies that he has received a benefit; more ungrateful is he who
pretends that he has not received it. But the most ungrateful man of all is he
who forgets it”. Three reasons, perhaps, why we must be grateful would be
worth-pondering.
First, to give thanks
is a sign of wisdom. According to St. Bernard of Clairvaux, “There
are three things that show whether or not your mouth is full of wisdom: one, if
you acknowledge and profess your own sinfulness; two, if from your mouth come
acts of thanksgiving and praises; and, three, if from your mouth come words
that edify others” (Various Sermons, 15). You see, to be grateful is to be wise because in recognizing
the good things received, you also recognize the Giver. In gratitude, we see the
truth about God and about ourselves. We recognize that everything is meaningful
because everything is a gift. For this reason, Melody Beattie observes that “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It
turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance,
chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house
into a home, a stranger into a friend”.
Secondly, acts of
thanksgiving to God are an anticipation of the praises that we shall sing to
Him in heaven. To give thanks, therefore, is to practice our life in
heaven. What does heaven consist in? Of course, it consists in loving God and
our fellow citizens in heaven. But it also consists in eternal and non-stop
acts of praise and thanksgiving. If you want to enter heaven, then, you must rehearse
that life here on earth. St. Augustine once wrote: “The subject of our meditation in
this present life should be the praises of God; for the everlasting exaltation
of our life hereafter will be the praise of God, and none can become fit for
the life hereafter, who has not practiced himself for it now” (Expositions on the Psalm 148, 1).
Lastly, he who
recognizes the benefits received shall receive more. Our human experience
tells us that we love to give more to people who are grateful for our gifts. To
the ungrateful, we never give them anymore. God, who remains generous even to
the ungrateful, multiplies the gifts for those who are grateful. St. Bernard of
Clairvaux said: “To whoever recognizes humbly the benefits received and is grateful for
it, reasonably will receive more benefits. To him who is faithful in what is
small more will be given. But who is ungrateful in what he received is unworthy
of new favors” (On Psalm 50).
Commenting on today’s Gospel, St. Bernard observed that “What
causes God not to grant our prayers is His finding us lacking in gratitude.
After all, perhaps it is even an act of mercy on His part to hold back from the
ungrateful what they are asking for so that they may not be judged all the more
rigorously on account of their ingratitude… [Thus] it is sometimes out of mercy
that God holds back His mercy…” If you think God is not granting you
your heart’s desire, perhaps He sees that you lack enough gratitude. Wallace D.
Wattles has a point when he wrote: “The
grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best. Therefore it tends to become
the best. It takes the form or character of the best and will receive the best”.
My dear friends, if
we are grateful to God and to each other by being generous in sharing our time,
talent and treasure, we will grow in wisdom, we anticipate our life
in heaven and we shall receive more blessings. We ask the
Blessed Virgin Mary the graces we need to be more grateful so that we may
become happier in life, for indeed, it is not happiness that makes us grateful;
it is gratefulness that makes us happy.